Sooooo, I was sitting here taking a mini-“break” at work (meetings ALL MORNING and my brain was FRIED) debating fear, regret, and success. I kept repeating….,

“You’re feeling regret, but you aren’t defeated…it’s okay!”

“You’re feeling regret, but you aren’t defeated… it was a decision!”

“You’re feeling regret, but YOU AREN’T DEFEATED!”

Somehow I stumbled upon this article “Iconic Roles and the Stars Who Regret Turning Them Down” … talk about immediate consolation and confirmation that IT’S OKAY…. In short, you can’t avoid making decisions! You never know what the outcome will be, but make the best decision you can using the information and reasoning you have and stand on it.  Yes, you may want to kick yourself in the left (and right) butt-cheek afterwards, but YOU MADE A CALL… you were able to do what so many people struggle with…. make a decision!  Now, the outcome may not have gotten you the results you desired, but you still stood the course and followed through with the consequences.

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No, life isn’t perfect (and neither are our decision making skills… at times), but we can only move forward and take charge of the things that are meant for us if we make the decision to let go and prepare to take hold of whatever’s next (thus the monkey-bars ;)… #Method2MyMADDNESS).  Will every decision bring you joy… NOPE!  Will you look back and think, “What the HELL was I thinking?!” …..MAYBE :).  I’ll be transparent and admit that I should have trusted God A LOT more than I did during one particular decision making process — told myself to “get my faith up!”, lol — but this has been one hell of a learning experience!!!!  What touched me most about the article is that the people who passed up great opportunities were still given new opportunities and are still successful.

Some doors only open once…  If you miss your chance don’t beat yourself up FOREVER!  Count your losses, thank God for the experience, and pray that He will make another way for you to achieve the same goal (#SelfMinistry).  My friend, David Mak Thompson, Jr, posted something I know as a Christian woman…but CLEARLY I needed a reminder….

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Heck, I wear a ring EVERY DAY that says the SAME THING…. that’s why I bought the darned thing!!!  Yes, I have to be ALL IN!  No matter what, trust God and move forward standing on his promises.

Proverbs 3:5-6

New King James Version (NKJV)

Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct[a] your paths.

I will NEVER forget what this feels like…. this heart-ache from a place so deep down I NEVER knew it existed.  I went in, guns blazing, somehow got distracted… started stressing, worrying, doubting… and now I’m praying that He’ll trust me again!!!  I often choose “the scenic route” first….it comes with some LIFE-LONG lessons, but I’ll get there.  There may be a delay, but our destinies haven’t been denied.  Sometimes we leap… sometimes we crawl…. other times we pat around in the dark until we find the switch (#random).  Never-the-less, every time our name graces the “wake-up” list we’ve been given another chance to get it right.  EVERYONE experiences regret, but we haven’t been defeated.  So, exhale and repeat to yourself…..

“You’re feeling regret, but you aren’t defeated…it’s okay!”

“You’re feeling regret, but you aren’t defeated… it was a decision!  Let’s go back to the drawing board”

“You’re feeling regret,…………………… but YOU HAVEN’T BEEN DEFEATED!”