4 Ways to Summon Your Purpose In Life

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Some lucky people seem to have been born with a greater purpose in life while the rest of us are left to search for ours.  Umair Haque, director of Havas Media Labs, thinks the problem may be that we’re looking so hard. Instead, he suggests four ways we can approach the world.

Ditch the cool facade and feel the love. Instead of feeling and expressing real love, we use weaker substitutes such as “passion,” “dreams” or “bucket lists.” These days, we’re more likely to feel the opposite of love—hate, anger, fear and envy—but purpose is a form of love, real love.

Feel the pain of heartbreak. Part of our modern-day cool facade involves insulating ourselves against everything that could cause an emotional ache or pain. To open yourself back up to feeling, you need to immerse yourself in some things that make you ache and maybe break your heart.

Drive through life NASCAR style. Most people approach life like a Formula One race, trying to drive the cleanest laps to achieve the fastest time. People who find true purpose and fulfillment, though, take a NASCAR approach, where hits and scrapes are part of the experience. You have to be willing to take hits, fail, start over and keep going.

Seek forests, not fireworks. Fireworks are exciting, but they just spark, flare and fizzle in a matter of seconds. Purpose and the love it takes to achieve it come from a calmer, slower process akin to the growth of a great forest. As you go through that life, you will be bruised, scarred and hurt, but if you’re lucky, purpose will find you and redeem you from the void of an empty and unfulfilling life.

— Adapted from “How to Let Your Purpose Find You,” Umair Haque, Harvard Business Review.

Season 2, Ep 9

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“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.”  ― Laurell K. Hamilton, Mistral's Kiss

“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.”
― Laurell K. Hamilton, Mistral’s Kiss

“I knew you wouldn’t give up.” – Brennon/Booth

Matt 21:1-11 – He knew where they were, and he knew their purpose.

A few weeks ago I decided to watch the TV series ‘Bones’ from the beginning. I think I’m on season 4 now #Netflix, lol! Anyway, a few night’s ago there was an episode where Hodgens and Bones were buried alive. They woke up in a vehicle beaten up and not aware of where they were. Two of the smartest people in the lab were stuck. The Gravedigger struck again leaving everyone to use what they had to survive….knowledge and one another.  Forty-nine minutes of frantically searching. One lead, minimal access to additional information…. they’re stuck. Bones performs a surgery, they find a flare kit in the trunk, and a shattered cell phone. They were smart enough to use the remaining battery power to send one text message… ONE! One that they can’t even guarantee was delivered because that one attempt fried the board!!!!! I was on the edge of my seat the entire episode. I was drawn in by the things they knew and the clues they gave to help the investigators find them. They weren’t sure if they’d ever be found, and their team wasn’t sure they interpreted all the clues correctly. Everyone was doing the best they could, as fast as they could, but the inevitable could become reality if they couldn’t discern the signs.

Being depressed is a little like being buried alive. You want to live. You use ALL the tools you have; combine facts and intelligence in the fight to “rescue” your existence. You’re running out of air and options. Fear of actually succumbing to the small, dark place almost has you paralyzed. I’ve been there. The crazy thing is, sometimes you’re there and don’t even know it. Things are normal…life seems to be going well. You’re smiling, but aren’t sure if it’s a response to happiness. You laugh only because it seems to be the socially acceptable response. Your dreams become a blur, social situations are still a place of solitude and a clear rational thought is on the endangered species list. You’re in deep…. so deep you wake up and aren’t even quite sure of who you are or what’s taken place.

More time has elapsed than you realize. You wake up realizing how far left you’ve gone…you finally “come to” in the middle of nowhere. You’re lost. You wonder if anyone will come looking for you… if anyone will recognize you’re gone. Is your absence felt? Did anyone value you…Did you mean enough to anyone for them to exhaust all resources to find you? All the while you are fighting and fighting… Using EVERYTHING you’ve got to find your way back….

As Hodgens and Brennon began to run out of air they came up with one final push…..create a bomb. With this last push to survive there are two possible outcomes… 1. Blow themselves out, or 2. Blow themselves up; A 50-50 chance of survival.  I’ve made it to season 4 and of course they wouldn’t let the main characters die so early, so the same still applies for our individual life stories.  That’s what we have… a 50-50 chance.  He won’t let the main character die until our purpose has been fulfilled.  It doesn’t matter how you see yourself or what you’ve done, there’s always a second chance and ALWAYS someone who will never give up on you.

If you feel like you’re being buried by life’s circumstances or that your life serves no purpose remember that “He knew where they were and knew their purpose”.  The unsuspecting donkeys were right where they were supposed to be when they were supposed to be there.  It didn’t matter what happened before that moment, but only their purpose once released.  Go ahead! By any means necessary begin to dig yourself out!! There is purpose in you.  It’s okay if you’ve strayed away, it’s okay if you’ve lost sight of the original plan, and it’s okay if the plan has changed…. just don’t give up.  You might feel alone, lost, or like the walls of life are caving in… don’t give up!  Not only are your friends and family there waiting, but your purpose is there too.  The thoughts and plans that He has for you are yet to be fulfilled. #DontGiveUp