13 Ways You Know You’re Dating A High-Quality Woman

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We do exist…..

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1. She encourages you to pursue your goals, but she doesn’t micromanage. She trusts you to make the right decisions in your own life. She’s the cheerleader, not the coach.

2. She doesn’t try to make you jealous. She’s secure in her worth, and your ability to recognize how valuable she is. She doesn’t need to play games to “trick” you into seeing her her for what she is.

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3. She doesn’t have a princess complex. She demands that you treat her with respect — but because she is a person you love, not because she is a woman and therefore magically entitled to something. Just as she would expect you to treat your friends and family with respect, she knows you wouldn’t treat her any other way. A high-quality woman wouldn’t be with a man who was disrespectful to the people he is…

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Regret, not Defeat!

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Sooooo, I was sitting here taking a mini-“break” at work (meetings ALL MORNING and my brain was FRIED) debating fear, regret, and success. I kept repeating….,

“You’re feeling regret, but you aren’t defeated…it’s okay!”

“You’re feeling regret, but you aren’t defeated… it was a decision!”

“You’re feeling regret, but YOU AREN’T DEFEATED!”

Somehow I stumbled upon this article “Iconic Roles and the Stars Who Regret Turning Them Down” … talk about immediate consolation and confirmation that IT’S OKAY…. In short, you can’t avoid making decisions! You never know what the outcome will be, but make the best decision you can using the information and reasoning you have and stand on it.  Yes, you may want to kick yourself in the left (and right) butt-cheek afterwards, but YOU MADE A CALL… you were able to do what so many people struggle with…. make a decision!  Now, the outcome may not have gotten you the results you desired, but you still stood the course and followed through with the consequences.

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No, life isn’t perfect (and neither are our decision making skills… at times), but we can only move forward and take charge of the things that are meant for us if we make the decision to let go and prepare to take hold of whatever’s next (thus the monkey-bars ;)… #Method2MyMADDNESS).  Will every decision bring you joy… NOPE!  Will you look back and think, “What the HELL was I thinking?!” …..MAYBE :).  I’ll be transparent and admit that I should have trusted God A LOT more than I did during one particular decision making process — told myself to “get my faith up!”, lol — but this has been one hell of a learning experience!!!!  What touched me most about the article is that the people who passed up great opportunities were still given new opportunities and are still successful.

Some doors only open once…  If you miss your chance don’t beat yourself up FOREVER!  Count your losses, thank God for the experience, and pray that He will make another way for you to achieve the same goal (#SelfMinistry).  My friend, David Mak Thompson, Jr, posted something I know as a Christian woman…but CLEARLY I needed a reminder….

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Heck, I wear a ring EVERY DAY that says the SAME THING…. that’s why I bought the darned thing!!!  Yes, I have to be ALL IN!  No matter what, trust God and move forward standing on his promises.

Proverbs 3:5-6

New King James Version (NKJV)

Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct[a] your paths.

I will NEVER forget what this feels like…. this heart-ache from a place so deep down I NEVER knew it existed.  I went in, guns blazing, somehow got distracted… started stressing, worrying, doubting… and now I’m praying that He’ll trust me again!!!  I often choose “the scenic route” first….it comes with some LIFE-LONG lessons, but I’ll get there.  There may be a delay, but our destinies haven’t been denied.  Sometimes we leap… sometimes we crawl…. other times we pat around in the dark until we find the switch (#random).  Never-the-less, every time our name graces the “wake-up” list we’ve been given another chance to get it right.  EVERYONE experiences regret, but we haven’t been defeated.  So, exhale and repeat to yourself…..

“You’re feeling regret, but you aren’t defeated…it’s okay!”

“You’re feeling regret, but you aren’t defeated… it was a decision!  Let’s go back to the drawing board”

“You’re feeling regret,…………………… but YOU HAVEN’T BEEN DEFEATED!”

4 Ways to Summon Your Purpose In Life

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Some lucky people seem to have been born with a greater purpose in life while the rest of us are left to search for ours.  Umair Haque, director of Havas Media Labs, thinks the problem may be that we’re looking so hard. Instead, he suggests four ways we can approach the world.

Ditch the cool facade and feel the love. Instead of feeling and expressing real love, we use weaker substitutes such as “passion,” “dreams” or “bucket lists.” These days, we’re more likely to feel the opposite of love—hate, anger, fear and envy—but purpose is a form of love, real love.

Feel the pain of heartbreak. Part of our modern-day cool facade involves insulating ourselves against everything that could cause an emotional ache or pain. To open yourself back up to feeling, you need to immerse yourself in some things that make you ache and maybe break your heart.

Drive through life NASCAR style. Most people approach life like a Formula One race, trying to drive the cleanest laps to achieve the fastest time. People who find true purpose and fulfillment, though, take a NASCAR approach, where hits and scrapes are part of the experience. You have to be willing to take hits, fail, start over and keep going.

Seek forests, not fireworks. Fireworks are exciting, but they just spark, flare and fizzle in a matter of seconds. Purpose and the love it takes to achieve it come from a calmer, slower process akin to the growth of a great forest. As you go through that life, you will be bruised, scarred and hurt, but if you’re lucky, purpose will find you and redeem you from the void of an empty and unfulfilling life.

— Adapted from “How to Let Your Purpose Find You,” Umair Haque, Harvard Business Review.

Unlocking Your Full Potential

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An AWESOME post by a GREAT friend!!! Read. Enjoy. 🙂

The Unlikely HR Guy

I look for analogies and learning opportunities in everything. And while making sure not to miss any teachable moments with my children, I often find myself over-analyzing the shows they watch on television and pointing out the life and work lessons in them. I’m actually amazed that my son is still willing to watch his shows with me.

Saying that, one of my son’s favorite toys/shows is Lego Ninjago. Short synopsis, the four main characters are young ninjas that are charged with battling evil doers trying to take over the city of Ninjago and surrounding areas. Early in their development, their Sensei (Wu) taught that each of them had special and unique powers/abilities that they must find within themselves and tap into. This process was often referred to as “Unlocking Their Full Potential”.

Throughout the season, the four ninjas competed with one another, fought alongside one another, trained and eventually…

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8 Things Guys Secretly Love

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8 Things Guys Secretly Love – http://huff.to/O1GTDT